If you read my previous post about being denied a chance to be a hair model because of my body size, I mentioned that only because I knew my worth. This is why I was not completely devastated by the response from HYPE HAIR MAGAZINE. After a few comments and direct messages I realized that lot of you queens understood what I was saying but a nice number said that they were surprised I was so strong about it and that they would have:

1. cried

2. cursed that individual out or

3. not pursue that avenue anymore.

Believe it or not we all have our insecurities, whether its hidden or spoke about we all got it! Also social media does not help too much, especially with all the "Perfection" that is displayed. It causes you to be self conscious, question your life and wonder what you are doing wrong and can do better. That stuff jacks up your self esteem! Am I the only one that feels this?

Self Esteem and Self Worth to me are all the same. So let's dive into the definition. Self Worth is the sense of one's worth and value as a person.

Let's take back our happiness and individual worth.

SET GOALS

When you are working towards something that brings you joy and happiness it helps bring tremendous confidence and pride. The crazy thing about this is that it can be anything. A hobby, weight loss, whatever you have a passion for or have dreamed about.

You will be so proud of yourself for completing the goal whether small or big. Do not beat yourself up for it being a small step, congratulate yourself always.

Stay focus and keep the positive energy you are doing something to better you!

GET WITH GOOD FOLKS

You know that when you surround yourself with good energies and good people you feel more uplifted, you feel more at peace. Watch the friends and family then ask yourself if these people are good for you and allowed in your space.

Surround yourself with like minded individuals and humans that want more for themselves. When doing this you will see how things fall into place!

CARRY YOURSELF WELL!

Look, go into an interview with your hands crossed and mean mugging and tell me what response you get! People can sense when your pissed, insecure, uncomfortable whatever. Folks sense that.

Its always important to look and feel confident. "Fake it till you Make it" You may not feel all that grand but do not show everyone that. The fact of the matter is no one wants to be around a Debbie Downer. Just being honest!

SELF LOVE

A much easier thing said then done I know, but, do not underestimate the power of L-O-V-E especially to self. Every morning no matter how stupid it might feel take a moment to enjoy what your looking at in the mirror. Give yourself a compliment and not focus on the imperfections that you complain about all day.

Write a list of things you love and enjoy about yourself. You are royalty do not be bash-full about this! When you reach about 75 read the list once and awhile and remind yourself why you are soooo loved by self! Also write on a post-it motivational quotes and stick them all over the house (I do this, it helps so much).

Like and followers on Instagram last for a few hours not for ever! True confidence and self worth comes from within! Do not seek it from others you will never be satisfied...

Trust your girl I learned the hard way.

xoxo SHAY!